Just for Birth parents and their families

Dear Birth Family,

As children, many of us remember driving in the car and asking our parents “Are we there yet?” It’s the infamous question we all wondered. The experience seemed endless and often daunting and rarely did it seem worth it. Yet, when we arrive at the destination all things become clear and we then realize the sacrifice that needed to be made.
We know this must be a hard time for you. We cannot imagine the emotions you must be feeling at this time. Reading so many profiles and letters must be overwhelming and somewhat heartbreaking but we are so grateful for your willingness to come this far. We are grateful for the opportunity to share a piece of ourselves with you. It is hard to compress so much emotion and gratitude into a simple letter but we will do our best to express to you who we are and how we feel about adoption and you.
Often through our adoption journey we have asked ourselves “Are we there yet?” During our struggles with infertility it has often felt that the end was nowhere in sight. “Will we ever be parents?,” or “Have we struggled enough yet?” were questions often asked. We still have a long journey ahead of us but the picture is becoming clearer each day.

We are so grateful for adoption. We love our birthmom dearly. We know that we would not be parents if it weren’t for her love and ultimate sacrifice. There is not a day that goes by that we don’t offer gratitude for her. Each night at bedtime prayers, we ask Heavenly Father to watch over her and keep her safe. We talk of our birthmom often to Emma, sharing stories of her and our wonderful experiences with her. We blow kisses to her picture each night. While we don’t want our children growing up feeling out of place because they are adopted, we want them to know how special they are because they are adopted and the wonderful birthmom’s in our lives that allowed us to be an eternal family. We want you to be included in our lives through letters and pictures. We are absolutely willing to discuss openness with you if you are interested.
We have cried for you and prayed for you. We love you and what you are willing to do. Perhaps you too have asked yourself “Am I there yet? Am I ready for this? Is what I’m doing the right thing?” We have prayed for you each night that the Savior’s arms will embrace you as you make difficult decisions. Know that He is with you and will guide you to the family that your baby is meant to be with.

Love,
Jeremy and Leslie